Tips on using your sex toy for the first time
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You’ve unboxed your new vibrator and expectations are high.
You’ve been waiting for the big O, but something is holding you back. It’s the uncertainty of how to go about it.
Getting the most out of your vibrator can take practice as you discover how it works and your ideal type and level of stimulation.
So, here’s some advice to get you started.
Get to know your vibrator
The first step in using your vibrator is to familiarise yourself with its purpose and settings.
Some vibrators, like bullets and massagers, are designed for external use only and are ideal for stimulating your clitoris, while others are suitable for vaginal penetration.
There are also vibrators, such as rabbits, designed for simultaneous internal and external stimulation thanks to an insertable shaft and protruding clitoral attachment.
Explore your vibrator with your hands until you feel comfortable enough for intimate use
Read the manual that came with your toy to find out about its power source, settings and other features.
Explore your vibrator with your hands and cycle through its settings until you feel comfortable enough for intimate use.
Set the scene
When you’re ready to use your vibrator, gather other items you’ll need, including compatible lubricant and a towel. (Remember, water-based lubricants are generally the most versatile and silicone-based lubricant should not be used with silicone toys.)
Do whatever you need to feel turned on, whether it’s lighting candles, playing music, watching porn, reading erotica, fantasising or simply touching your body.
Apply lubricant
Now that you’re really in the mood, apply lubricant to your vibrator and/or body – but not your intimate areas just yet. It will reduce friction and therefore discomfort as well as increase sensitivity and arousal.
Start slowly
Turn your vibrator on and select the lowest intensity. If it has a range of vibration patterns, begin with a basic one like constant vibration.
Some vibrators are intense from the get-go, so ease yourself in – you can always increase the intensity and explore other vibration patterns later.
Tease yourself by running the vibrator on your breasts, stomach and thighs before moving towards your genitals.
Discover your ideal level of contact
As you glide your vibrator along your skin, experiment with the level of contact.
Some women like the intensity of placing a vibrator directly on their clitoris while others prefer to stimulate the area indirectly by holding the toy against their labia.
You can further reduce the intensity of clitoral stimulation by leaving your underwear on while using your vibrator.
When it comes to insertable vibrators, start shallow and penetrate deeper as you feel comfortable. You don’t need to take in the full shaft on first go.
Find your sensitive spots
Little compares to the pleasure delivered by a vibrator targeting your hot spot.
For most women, it’s the clitoris, which makes sense given that it contains more than 7000 sensory nerve endings, a higher concentration than any other part of the body.
However, you may also enjoy the stimulation of in-and-out penetration.
If your vibrator is insertable, try massaging its head against your g-spot at the front wall of your vagina. Pressure here can feel good because it pushed on the internal part of the clitoris.
Explore the possibilities
Once you’re familiar with the basics of your vibrator and how you like to use it, experiment with the settings, exploring other intensities and patterns.
If your vibrator is waterproof, try using it while standing up in the shower or in the bath with your foot propped up on the edge of the tub for wider access.
Another exciting way to use your vibrator is with a partner during foreplay and sex, depending on its design.
An exciting way to use your vibrator is with a partner during foreplay and sex
Using your vibrator with your lover can increase trust and intimacy, heighten arousal for both of you, and show them how you like to be stimulated. You can even let your partner use your vibrator on you, telling them how much you enjoy what they are doing.
Your sex toy can be an effective sexual aid if you find it hard to climax during sex and your lover may also benefit from its stimulating vibrations.
Clean and store
So, your session is over. What next?
After using your vibrator, it’s best practice to clean it thoroughly according to manufacturer’s directions. Generally, this involves applying toy cleaner, or if your sex toy is waterproof or splashproof, washing it with warm water and mild soap.
Then, let your vibrator dry thoroughly either naturally or by patting with a clean, lint-free cloth.
Once your vibrator is clean and dry, place it in a safe, cool dark place, such as a drawer or storage case.
If you have more than one sex toy, store them without touching each other to avoid deterioration over time, especially if made from jelly rubber, latex, PVC, realistic feel materials or TPR/TPE.
Now you know how to use and care for your vibrator, have fun building your experience and let your toy collection grow!
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