Foreplay for Anal: A Guide

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As with any type of sex, foreplay is super important and can make all the difference to whether your anal experience is mind-blowing or just so-so.

A lot of couples make the mistake of trying to rush into it, but the more aroused you both are, the more pleasurable the experience will be. 

And remember, you don’t have to have penis-to-anal penetration every time you have anal sex. Just getting into a bit of anal play can be an achievement, and leave you wanting more. 

There are so many nerve endings in the anus that some people actually get more turned on by anal play than vaginal or penis stimulation, so whether you’re gearing up for anal penetration or you’re just keen to expand your repertoire, this guide is for you.

Why is foreplay important?

While the anus isn’t self-lubricating, foreplay is still super-important, even if it won’t technically make you ‘wet’ (at least not in the anus).  

Besides helping you get in the mood, foreplay is great for relaxation and loosening up the anus, so you’re ready to move on to bigger things if penetration is on the cards. 

And remember – always use plenty of lube!

Our top anal foreplay ideas

Need some anal foreplay tips? Here are 6 ideas to inspire you

Watch anal sex on screen

Before you start exploring each other, try watching a bit of adult media that features anal sex. It can help you get an idea of what positions seem to feel good and think about what could work for you. Plus it gets you in the mood.

Have a shower

Nothing beats a good shower with your partner as a bit of foreplay. Use nice stuff, like Vush It’s All Good Intimate Body Wash, and just rub it in and touch each other all over. The best thing is that the Vush body wash is designed to be used on sensitive skin, and in sensitive areas.

Have an orgasm first

It might seem counterintuitive, but our number one tip for anal play is to have an orgasm first. This relieves any pent up sexual tension and relaxes your body all over, making further play easier.

Incorporate massage

Try massaging the butt cheeks and upper thighs to get more comfortable with the region. Try exploring with fingers, don’t forget the lube, relax and breathe.

Play with anal toys

Perhaps try some play with anal toys. Be gentle, be curious, and see what your partner likes. 

Remember to only use a water-based lubricant with silicone toys during foreplay as silicone-based lube can react to the silicone surface of a toy and cause damage.

Use your tongue

Next, perhaps move on to oral anal sex, using Doc Johnson Oralove Lickable Lubes, which are warm and tingly. Rimming involves licking, sucking and kissing the anus, and it can feel pretty darn good!

So, there you have it!

Some ideas for anal foreplay that will hopefully get you in the mood and help make your experience more enjoyable. Remember, take things slowly at first and communicate with your partner about what feels good. As always, have fun and enjoy yourself!

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